In a mindful life there is a strong correlation between expanding our awareness and becoming empowered. In navigating the terrain of relationships, expanding the awareness in regards to how we interface with otheres becomes an exceptionally handy tool.
This useful bit of awareness arises from consciously knowing, distinguishing, and then choosing to move from a reactive state to a responsive state. A reactive state, or reaction, occurs when we feel threatened. When we are in a reaction certain physiological events occur. We get tense, our breathing changes, and we become ungrounded. This is the classic fight/flight/freeze experience. On the other hand, when we are in a response, our physiology demonstrates that we are fully present, un-tense in our physical body, relaxed in our breath, and deeply grounded in our energy. There is a balance between our mental process, our emotional world and our physical body. Our cellular system is not in ‘fight, flight, or freeze’ mode. We have not donned the mask of “I’m OK” as our cellular body tenses up and our breathing stops. Our behavior is true to who we are in the present authentic moment
. The American scholar Joseph Campbell states it well. “The goal of life is to make your heartbeat match the beat of the universe, to match your nature with Nature.”
In our mindful efforts to deepen relational contact, it is vitally important to distinguish a reaction from a response. Quite simply, when we are in a reaction, we are not in contact. We can use our physical body as an instrument to help us decipher a reaction from a response.
As we do this, we bring greater awareness into our relationships and we can consciously take the steps necessary to move from one to the other. This is exceptionally useful and very empowering. ........